Hi! I haven’t written a thing for six months, oops. I owe my silence to a particularly busy spring and summer which included a family trip to New Zealand, a solo yoga retreat, training for and running a marathon, completing a big curriculum project for work, not to mention various weekend adventures to hot springs, the beach, camping with queers(!) and lots of time laying by the pool. Here are a few snaps of our adventures. So what’s up on the…
I have been a stay at home mom now for a year. I struggle with the term because of all the baggage that it carries (for me). I picture one of these two scenarios… Either you’re totally disheveled, overweight, un-showered, unhappy, and late to everything, or you look fabulous every day with a perfect body, impeccable clothing, hair and makeup, your kids are clean and well-behaved, basically life is effortlessly beautiful. 90% of the time I feel like the former,…
I studied a concept in grad school called racial stress, which is a term to describe discomfort or stress related to interactions that involve race. It can affect anyone but is particularly detrimental for folks on the receiving end of a racist interaction. Research has shown that it can negatively affect mental and emotional health. If you’re interested, check out this great article that was published in The Atlantic a few years ago. This clearly isn’t a blog about race…
Kirsten and I made a cross country trek with our little man in June. One way included a dog as well – and not a little one. The lead up to taking a foster kid on vacation, let alone out of state, requires a lot of advance planning and waiting. We requested the dates of our case worker, who contacted the judge. The judge notified the attorneys of the biological parents, who should have notified the parents (we assume…
Alright so I haven’t written a post in 3 months. A lot changes in three months when you have a baby under 1, like your kid goes from not talking to talking. Not posting for three months also means that I haven’t shared with you the latest about her development, or my suffering and joy with respect to it. I tell myself that I haven’t written because there was so much going on in my life (which there was) but…
My wife (to whom I shall henceforth refer to as Kirsten) and I (Avi) have been married for just over 3 years. Last year, early 2016, we decided we wanted to have a kid. I have never once wanted to birth a tiny human from myself, but that has been a long-time dream of Kirsten’s. We did research, found an amazing fertility/reproductive specialist, searched through sperm banks (learned more about some donors than we know about ourselves), purchased just the…