I regret that it has been over a month since my last post. Life has been crazy over here for the girl tribe.  Mrs S has been working like a madwoman (and when she works nights and weekends, it means I don’t get a break either).  We also just returned from a family trip to New York and Philly to visit old friends, see new art, and eat real bagels. 

Amidst the insanity, we still made time to celebrate LGBTQ Pride Month in San Francisco with thousands of our closest friends.  I always feel a swell of joy when I walk down Market Street and see it lined with rainbow flags.  And I can’t watch Dykes on Bikes without tearing up (you think I’m kidding).  P.S. Who wants to teach me how to ride a motorcycle?

We attended the Trans March in San Francisco with my sister-in-law and her wife, who came out as trans this year. It was her first Pride and it was so special to be able to share that with her.

We also attended my favorite Pride event, Dyke March (which was more like Dyke Picnic because the march left without us, but that’s another issue I will need to take up with event organizers).

I have to say, there are few things more affirming of my queer identity than picnicking in a sea of lesbians.

Every year I find myself asking, where do they hide them all!? Why can’t we amass this type of community on a more regular basis?

When we lived in Philly (for one year, I might add) we were able to make lifetime friends with an amazing group of queer women.  And yet, Mrs S and I lack a similar community here in the Bay Area despite the fact that collectively we’ve been living here for 17 years.  Is it because there are too many lesbians, so we don’t feel like we need to band together? Or is it just the nature of the city’s cold and standoffish social scene?  I’ve tried to create meet-up groups to bring queer mamas together but it has been an epic fail.  So I pose this to my little community of readers…how do you find your queer community?  Where am I failing? Why can’t every day be Dyke March?